A Public Service Announcement from the Good Men Project
Today, GMP’s Alyssa Royse (the same who defends her friend who raped a sleeping woman because he’s so nice and she was TOTALLY FLIRTING WITH HIM) did us all an enormous favor by posting this status update publicly* on her Facebook page (all of the below quote is <sic>, and accompanied a link to the piece Schroeder wrote about how awesome they were to print, anonymously, an account of a rapist who has no plans to stop raping):
THIS IS SO GOOD. Especially, fine Joanna Schroeder’s comment that begins to totally break down the Lisak stud that forms the foundation of the Yes Means Yes Movement that was founded by the brand mane feminists that are soooooo brutally attacking Joanna, Lynn, and myself. By asking WHY men rape we have accidentally threatened their supremacy and the notions that they have built their fame on. Most of which was built on faulty data that was badly interpreted. We created a shit storm the likes of which no one could have imagined. But, I’m finally getting to the place where I can ask, “well, we’ve got all this energy and attention, what can we do with it?” This is such a good piece.
I don’t want to say much about this, because it speaks pretty clearly for itself. But I can’t resist pointing out a few things:
- I don’t know what “brand mane” feminists are “brutally attacking” GMP writers, but it’s certainly not me. Honestly, I’ve been mad busy running a nonprofit at the end of a calendar year, and as a result, have mostly been relying on other folks to say smart stuff that I can amplify. I am curious as to what constitutes a “brutal attack” in Royse’s eyes, especially given that the subject at hand is rape, which, let’s remember, Royse thinks is bad, but not cause to end a friendship if the perp is otherwise really “nice.”
- I’m not going to dignify with a response the suggestion that I’ve been doing anti-sexual-violence work since 1992, for most of that time in total anonymity, in order to “build fame.” But I will point out that she is talking pretty plainly here about wanting to use this “shit storm” to build their fame. And how are they doing it? By using controversy to troll for clicks, and by pandering to rapists, rape apologists and generally misogynist MRAs. And the result of that pandering is sure to be increased belief in the myth of misunderstanding, one of the main pillars of the social license to operate that allows rapists to keep raping with impunity. In other words, they’re “building their fame,” intentionally or not, by fostering more rape.
- One more thing, which has nothing to do with this statement, but which I got off my chest on social media today and want to get down for the record here. Something that hasn’t been said enough about the GMP argument about rape: it’s insulting to men. GMP is promoting idea that lots & lots of guys — most guys — are already rapists or might rape at any moment. It’s worth repeating that this is not only insulting, it’s untrue. Most men aren’t rapists. But beyond that, it doesn’t really demonstrate a belief in good men, now, does it? It’s us “scary” “radical” feminists that actually believe in good men.
*Royse and I are not Facebook “friends,” and yet I could see this statement just fine.