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Abstinence-Only Sex Ed Sez, “You can’t rape a slut!”

February 13, 2009

We all know that abstinence-only ed teaches kids some pretty horrific stuff (you can get AIDS from tears, sexually active women are like chewed-up peppermint patties, etc etc), but this just might take it to a new level.

The Ohio program is Abstinence ‘Till Marriage, which started receiving annual CBAE grants of $600,000 in 2006 (set to run until 2011). On their “Miss the Mess” website, you can enter the “Party Room”, where you learn the story of Rochelle, Jason, Monica and Tanner. Each person tells their perspective about what happens during and after a party one night.

Rochelle tells how she drove her drunken friend Jason home after the party, and then is raped by him. Jason denies that the rape happened, saying their sex was consensual. Monica and Tanner observe that Jason was being a drunken idiot the entire night, with Monica (Jason’s ex) adding her opinion that Rochelle has a reputation for “putting out” and being a “slut”.

The site then asks the question: “Based on all accounts, whose story sounds the least credible?”

Guess who is the “correct” answer? Rochelle.

It gets worse. The website continues, “Do you think a rape occurred?” The answer:

We don’t really know if Rochelle consented to having sex with Jason. She did make several bad choices and had a motive to lie when her dad went “ballistic.” Unfortunately, we are left to judge Ro’s honesty by her character and her actions … Monica implied Rochelle had a promiscuous reputation and the whole school seemed to know it.

The website then goes on to point out how how alcohol and drugs played a role in this situation. How?

Also, alcohol makes people less inhibitive. Jason was extremely vulnerable to his circumstances (like his recent breakup, crying, and being with a “hot” girl who comforted him).

So Jason was vulnerable, poor thing, and Rochelle is a lying slut. And at the end, they all get STDs.

If you’re American, your tax dollars are funding this, and effectively subsidizing rape culture. As Joe points out, abstinence-only ed has received $1.8 million in federal funding so far, and they’re slotted to receive another $1.8M in the next three years. We’ve spent $1.5 billion dollars on these programs in the last decade.

Tell Obama to stop funding medically inaccurate, rape-apologist abstinence-only education. Young people deserve facts and information that will keep them safe, not dangerous misinformation and shame.

Cross-posted at Feministe.

7 Comments leave one →
  1. February 13, 2009 3:18 pm

    sickening.

  2. perrybc permalink
    February 13, 2009 5:11 pm

    Wow – it seems to be getting worse on this front. Two other greatest hits from the abstinence-only folks:

    “A guy who wants to respect girls is distracted by sexy clothes and remembers her for [only] one thing. Is it fair that guys are turned on by their senses and women by their hearts?” – Sex Respect curriculum

    “The young girl learning to understand her changing body often has no idea the effect it has on surrounding males. Signals she doesn’t even know she is sending can cause big problems.” – Why kNOw curriculum

    Both of these curricula are widely used by federally-funded ab-only programs. All of this only reinforces the belief (held by many of us I’d guess) that proponents of the abstinence-only approach don’t care so much about preventing unwanted pregnancies and STIs amongst young people as they do about getting us back to traditional, rigid, and punishable gender roles.

  3. February 15, 2009 11:59 pm

    Sounds like someone’s really missing the 50s and slut-shaming back when it really could ruin a girl!

    Yeah, I’m digusted our taxes are paying for this. Thank you for bringing it to light.

    XX

  4. Ella permalink
    February 19, 2009 6:38 pm

    When I was a young teen I was told by an “abstinence-only” teaching woman that when I wore my purse across my chest I was trying to attract men and that it didn’t matter if I was advised by area police to wear my purse that way for my own safety. Nope I was being a whore for keeping myself safe. These sorts of curriculum are a breeding ground for emotional baggage.

  5. thebritkid permalink
    February 20, 2009 4:16 am

    Why does the form for contacting Obama only allow US residents? As someone who was never threatened with the ugly spectre of abstinence-only education I’m pretty horrified by what’s going on over there. In the meantime, has anyone thought of setting up a counter-website, possibly with a few tweaks to make it more easily Googlable?

  6. smilingCat permalink
    February 24, 2009 8:18 pm

    I love how ‘Rochelle’ sounds like a typical name for a teenage girl as color as well. So yeah, a little racist as well since Ro’ is not only implied to be w girl of color…but a slut!

    YAY!!

    This is horrifying and insulting.

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