Read it and weep less.
So, remember that heinous article on women’s sexuality the New York Times Magazine ran two weeks ago? Well, like many of us, I was so pissed off by their retro fantasy dressed up as science that I dashed off a letter. And guess what? They printed it!
150 words max is hard, but I feel pretty good about it. Check it out:
Women’s sexual needs are not a scientific mystery. Want to increase female libido? Put down the pharmaceuticals and free our minds with equal pay, affordable child care and equitable distribution of household responsibilities. Wondering why women gravitate toward sexually passive roles? The answer has far less to do with evolution than with the ways women are shamed for expressing aggressive desire and with the pervasive idea that women who pursue their own satisfaction are asking to be raped.
What this woman wants is an end to tired clichés dressed up as science and the beginning of a world in which women are treated as individuals, each of whom may or may not be turned on by intimacy, back-alley ravishment or any number of things; a world in which anyone wondering what a woman wants knows that the best thing to do is just ask her.
UPDATE: Charming. The letter’s been online for less than 24 hours, and already some douchenozzle’s attempting to shame me or call me unfuckable or unreasonable or something because I dare claim that women aren’t walking sex dolls. Very original. Excuse me while I go cry into my pillow.