Then God said, “Let there be sex,” and God saw it was good
I was fortunate enough to be raised by a mother who talked very openly and candidly with me about sex and sexuality. And somehow my mama managed to bring God into our discussions without bringing in guilt.
I was taught that sex and sexual desires were natural, not dirty, and that they were gifts from God. But I was also taught that my body was sacred and should be treated as such. And you know what, it worked.
Sure, I’ve got plenty of body and sexuality issues — I’ll save those for future posts – but I’ve never had any trouble with letting my sexuality and spirituality coexist.
I didn’t grow up thinking my worth was determined by the wholeness of my hymen. But I did see my body as a creation of God. As a teen this belief helped me shut down boys who tried to pressure me into sex. In college it kept me from trying to use sex to make a man fall in love with me and today it reminds me that I have a divine right to enjoy a happy and healthy sexual life.
With all the shame tied up in so many faith-based initiatives regarding sex, it’s tempting to want to completely take God out of discussions about sex and sexuality. But for women who do believe in a higher power I think there is a way for faith to actually help us love our bodies and have the good sex we deserve.