I am sorry to hear about you experience and as a grown woman who is raising a daughter, I have to tell you that communicating that SOME men will feel entitled to touch women without their permission is a difficult message to communicate. I see it like this, my daughter is going to have to live in a world made up of both men and women. Some of those people, regardless of gender, are going to feel the coercive sexual contact is an acceptable behavior to engage in. I am committed to teaching her to not be one of those people. However, I am not sure that I can provide her with the tools to spot who those people might be. If it were easy to do we would find rape prevention simple, avoid those people. But the fact is, our society has conditioned us, all of us, to cover for them. Some of us have been more successful than others I overcoming that conditioning. What I don’t want to do is tell her that all men are potential rapists or that all women will stand by her in sisterhood, because that is simply a lie. I am hoping that open honest communication about her personal physical soveriegnty, positive relationships with male peers and role models with like minded values, and the marial arts training will provide her with tools to navigate and change our society as a woman.

All the best,
Em

http://ricks.foreignpolicy.com/posts/2013/05/16/mchales_pentagon

It ties in to Predator Theory, and it ties into general psychology as a whole: people will tend to repeat behaviours which give them satisfaction. People also tend to prefer to operate within a space where their activities are socially sanctioned. This means people will do their best to get into places where they can repeat those behaviours which satisfy them without social criticism. Finding a social role in which (certain aspects of) their satisfying behaviours are lauded, encouraged and respected is a real plus.