The Snip

(About men, fertility and privileged experiences with medical care.)

“You’ll have to make the appointment for him,” she said. That was not going to happen.

My spouse heard this several times from several other married women. When they and their husbands were done having kids, they had concluded that the most sensible long-term contraception was vasectomy. That’s an easy conclusion to reach. It’s not really a big deal at all. Yet for some reason that they could not or would not articulate, these men all dragged their heels. They had to be pushed, prodded and handheld through a medical decision that they reasoned to but about which they felt a nameless unease.

That was not how we were going to handle things.

What really matters about Chris Brown’s sentence.

I’ve got a piece up at Huffington Post today on Chris Brown’s sentencing:

…if there’s any silver lining to this whole awful incident, it’s the way it’s put relationship violence back in our public conversation. Given how infrequently that happens, we should be doing more than just be asking what kind of sentence Chris Brown deserves. We need to ask what kind of sentence will help ensure he — and men all over the country just like him — never beats another woman.

You should go check it out.